As part of learning to deal with others, we have to take a minute or two and learn a little about ourselves. How do we get energized? How do we manage information? What influences our decisions? How do we organize our work? Why in the ever loving world does any of this matter? Wellllll......... The answers to those questions give us insight into how we deal with the people and situations around us. Someone who is energized by being with others around them in an active, whirlwind environment will be bored and possibly cranky alone in a quiet room while working on a project.
By nature we all have parts of our personality that balance each other, but typically we are more comfortable being more one way than the other and that can determine how well we interact with those around us. Extroverted people like being the life of the party, they get motivation from life and activity around them, most of them like being in groups and are seldom alone in a quiet environment. They approach the world with a "FIRE, Ready, Aim" attitude, this doesn't mean they don't think about what they are doing, just that they are excited and want to get things going. They want everyone to be involved and have fun too.
To balance those crazy extroverted people, we have introverts. Introverts can seem shy because they dislike being in the limelight or in noisy, crowded places, but don't think they don't have a fun side, they just have to dig a little deeper and flex to find their inner extrovert. While the extroverted approach seems insane to an introvert, they look at what is happening, think things through and then make their project happen. Their approach is more of a "ready, aim, aim, fire."
All of us have a little bit of both in us, it just depends on the situation we are in and how we are responding to the environment around us. If extroverts didn't reflect and evaluate occasionally they could become anxious, stressed or overly tired. On the other hand, if introverts didn't ever "cut loose" and take a walk on the wild side, they wouldn't find opportunities for growth.
When a guest comes into the salon and sits in our chair, we have to make decisions that can change or influence a person's entire look. Our job is to make your hair, make up or nails fit you as a person. It's usually easier to get information out of an extrovert....in fact they probably brought people with them and are volunteering information that may or may not have anything to do with the service they are having done! Introverted people make our job a little more difficult because they may not freely give the answers, they may require specific directed questions to get the information needed for the service they are having.
Now imagine what can happen if an extroverted stylist has an extroverted client.... there may be fireworks over the flat iron!!! No, that won't always happen, but if the stylist isn't able to pull in their crazy outgoing personality, they may make that guest very mad, and I guarantee it won't be pretty when an extroverted client goes postal because they aren't being heard.
So if we have fireworks over the flat iron with the extroverts, what might possibly occur when an introverted stylists gets an introverted guest? Very little....until the introverted stylist reaches in and taps their inner extrovert. Then the consultation can begin the client usually ends up happy.
We all encounter personalities that are very similar to our own, along with the ones who are our complete opposites, that's what makes the world such and interesting place. In our industry we get to be ourselves and sometimes we get to do a little acting and be "someone else" to accommodate all of our guests, every once in a while it's fun to let our inner personality out before we go back to our normal everyday routine, so we can stretch and see what the big, bright world has to offer. Whether you jump at the chance and plan a party to do just that, or take a minute to think about the when, where and how you are going to stretch and peek at the world is completely up to you...... me, well my invitations already went out by e-vite!